Sad things about having a husband who has depression
Wednesday, 08 September, 2004
- He cannot concentrate so he cannot remember what you are saying to him. When he asks what to pray for you, he has to ask you again what the first thing you said was because he can't remember.
- He doesn't sleep well so he has no energy to do anything.
- He has no energy so he cannot help you very much with the housework: cooking, cleaning, shopping, looking after the backyard, etc.
- He is adversely affected by stress so normal day-to-day things become too much to handle, eg. remembering to bring such-and-such an object to such-and-such a place.
- He feels down all the time and takes no joy in things. He cannot share the pleasure you feel in a nice day, an absorbing book or a good movie.
- He cannot think properly so it's had to have a conversation.
- Because of the way he is and the way he feels, it's hard to have people over or go spend time with other people—especially if they're not the kind of people that he feels like he can just relax with.
- Sometimes it seems like he's not really there even though he may be physically there.
- He cannot treasure you the way that husbands treasure their wives. (This, my friends, is the secret to what women want: to be loved, to be cherished, to be cared for, to be treasured.) He cannot be there for you when you're going through a rough time. He cannot listen to you spill your guts because he can't concentrate. He cannot enjoy life with you because he cannot enjoy life at the moment full stop.
Current:
Bible: Isaiah (ESV) 28/09/2010
seen: Tropic Thunder 26/09/2010
seen: The Life of Mammals 24/09/2010
seen: What a Girl Wants 19/09/2010
seen: Jerry Maguire 19/09/2010
seen: The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 06/09/2010
seen: Tomorrow Never Dies 05/09/2010
seen: Nanny McPhee 28/08/2010
read: Mercury (Hope Larson) 27/08/2010
read: Spellcheckers Vol 1 (Jamie S Rich, Nicolas Hitori de, Joelle Jones) 16/08/2010
read: Solipsistic Pop Vol 2 (Solipsistic Pop) 16/08/2010
read: Chiggers (Hope Larson) 15/08/2010
seen: Josie and the Pussycats 14/08/2010
seen: Mr & Mrs Smith 14/08/2010
seen: Step Up 2 13/08/2010
Blinks:
How to recalibrate the home button on your iPhone.
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Thought Balloon is a group blog in which the writers tackle a new theme every week? month? with one-page scripts. This URL is for their Phonogram ones.
How to sew a zipper on a knitted garment.
Issues organised by tale.
Online magazine that publishes fairy tales that are not reworkings of old tales.
Journal that publishes fairy tale writing.
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*hugs*
*prayer*
ditto.
ditto
And that is why you need to rely on God and your friends too - because we all can bring different things to you, and we all love you, as does Ben, even though at the moment it’s hard for him to express.
Many hugs.
George
Thank you everyone! I really appreciate it!!!
Hello Karen, I have never commented before and yet I read your entries all the time - it’s strange that one is able to look in on someone’s life without them even knowing you. Anyway, as a christian female mts worker who has had depression for 15 years I have absolutely no idea what you guys are going through but I sure do empathize with you and am saddened when I read of the struggle you two are enduring and I cry out to God that you will be reminded of His awesome love for you every moment of your day because He DOES love you both SO SO SO MUCH and that is what will get you through times like this. When one of our brothers or sisters is suffering we are suffering and so you aren’t alone - as I can see from all the posts! Even though I have never met you guys, I care and I will be praying for you and and asking my flatmates to. You have been such an encouragement to me - both of you. Keep perservering for Jesus and I look forward to meeting you when He returns. YAY THAT IS GOING TO BE AWESOME AY! love Hezza xxx>>xxx
Thank you, Hezza!
don’t think you know me either
but just want to say that you (and ben) are in my prayer too. thank you for being so open. make me realize that it could happen to young ppl too. in my naive mind, i thought depression only happen to middle ages ppl. anyway, keep focusing on Christ. may He gives you strength to cope with this situation.
*cheers*
-chenny-
Thank you, Chenny; you are right, I cannot put a face to your name. But thank you for your words of support. I think you’d be surprised the number of people out there who do suffer from depression or some sort of anxiety disorder. You only need to start talking to people about it and they start coming out of the woodwork.